PG-13 Defined
Some years ago, I walked into my office after a Sunday morning service to find a sandwich bag on my desk containing three chocolate brownies. Some thoughtful and anonymous person who knew my love for chocolate had placed them there, along with a piece of paper that had a short story written on it. I immediately sat down and began eating the first brownie as I read the following story:
Two teenagers asked their father if they could go to the theater to watch a movie that all their friends had seen. After reading some reviews about the movie on the Internet, he denied their request.
"Aw dad, why not?" they complained. "It's rated PG-13, and we're both older than thirteen!"
Dad replied, "Because that movie contains nudity and portrays immorality as being normal and acceptable behavior."
"But dad, those are just very small parts of the movie! That's what our friends who've seen it have told us. The movie is two hours long and those scenes are just a few minutes of the total film! It's based on a true story, and good triumphs over evil, and there are other redeeming themes like courage and self-sacrifice. Even the movie review websites say that!"
"My answer is 'no,' and that is my final answer. You are welcome to stay home tonight, invite some of your friends over, and watch one of the good videos we have in our home collection. But you will not go and watch that film. End of discussion."
The two teenagers walked dejectedly into the family room and slumped down on the couch. As they sulked, they were surprised to hear the sounds of their father preparing something in the kitchen. They soon recognized the wonderful aroma of brownies baking in the oven, and one of the teenagers said to the other, "Dad must be feeling guilty, and now he's going to try to make it up to us with some fresh brownies. Maybe we can soften him with lots of praise when he brings them out to us and persuade him to let us go to that movie after all."
About that time I began eating the second brownie from the sandwich bag and wondered if there was some connection to the brownies I was eating and the brownies in the story. I kept reading...
The teens were not disappointed. Soon their father appeared with a plate of warm brownies which he offered to his kids. They each took one. Then, their father said, "Before you eat, I want to tell you something: I love you both so much."
The teenagers smiled at each other with knowing glances. Dad was softening. "That is why I've made these brownies with the very best ingredients. I've made them from scratch. Most of the ingredients are even organic. The best organic flour. The best free-range eggs. The best organic sugar. Premium vanilla and chocolate." The brownies looked mouth watering, and the teens began to become a little impatient with their dad's long speech. "But I want to be perfectly honest with you. There is one ingredient I added that is not usually found in brownies. I got that ingredient from our own back yard. But you needn't worry, because I only added the tiniest bit of that ingredient to your brownies. The amount of the portion is practically insignificant. So go ahead, take a bite and let me know what you think."
"Dad, would you mind telling us what that mystery ingredient is before we eat?"
"Why? The portion I added was so small. Just a teaspoonful. You won't even taste it."
"Come on, Dad! Just tell us what that ingredient is."
"Don't worry! It is organic, just like the other ingredients."
"Dad!"
"Well, OK, if you insist. That secret ingredient is organic...dog poop."
I immediately stopped chewing that second brownie and I spit it out into the waste basket by my desk. I continued reading, now fearful of the paragraphs that still remained.
Both teens instantly dropped their brownies back on the plate and began inspecting their fingers with horror.
"DAD! Why did you do that? You've tortured us by making us smell those brownies cooking for the last half hour, and now you tell us that you added dog poop! We can't eat these brownies!"
"Why not? The amount of dog poop is very small compared to the rest of the ingredients. It won't hurt you. It's been cooked right along with the other ingredients. You won't even taste it. It has the same consistency as the brownies. Go ahead and eat!"
"No, Dad...NEVER!"
"And that is the same reason I won't allow you to go watch that movie. You won't tolerate a little dog poop in your brownies, so why should you tolerate a little immorality in your movies? We pray that God will not lead us unto temptation, so how can we in good conscience entertain ourselves with something that will imprint a sinful image in our minds that will lead us into temptation long after we first see it?"
I discarded what remained of the second brownie as well as the entire untouched third brownie. What had been irresistible a minute ago had become detestable. And only because of the very slim chance that what I was eating was slightly polluted. (Surely it wasn't...but I couldn't convince myself.) What a good lesson about purity! Why do we tolerate any sin? On the day of the Passover, the Israelites were commanded to remove every bit of leaven from their homes. Sin is like leaven - a little bit leavens the whole lump (1 Corinthians 5:6-7) faith and sin, don't mix.
--Anonymous
After I read this to my boys... actually I read it to all 6 of the kids... I apologized to them for the times my "discernment" (if you can call it that) was lacking in Godliness. I asked their forgiveness for having allowed exposure to those "little" things that when weighed against the standard of the world are nothing. But when weighed against God's holiness, of which we are to pursue in our own lives for His namesake, are putrid and filthy and shameful. I am so ashamed.
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Comments
Excellent analogy, Lisa!
It's like what I've said to Pam before when the topic of compromise comes up...you can't get a little bit pregnant.
In the same way that a little leaven leavens the whole lump, so too does exposure to immorality infect the soul.
SDG,
Brian
Posted by: Brian @ voiceofthesheep | January 8, 2008 12:09 PM
I have read that somewhere before...very powerful illustration! I may even try that on our 14 year old son, since we've been getting into those same types of discussions lately. Thanks for sharing it.
Lisa P.
Posted by: Lisa Pulliam | January 8, 2008 03:35 PM
Challies heard it in a sermon last week and it is a story that is apparently floating around cyberspace via e-mail. I found it too powerful not to publish. I even read it to my older teen boys. It was actually very personally convicting as I look back on the times I have allowed my children to be exposed to a few "little" things because it is just so culturally acceptable. But there is no excuse.
Truly, to God be ALL the glory for this illustration!!!!
Posted by: Lisa Nunley | January 8, 2008 04:21 PM
Thanks, Lisa. I think I will print this one off, too. Just this past Sunday, we had "movie issues", as a matter of fact. We allowed some of our girls to go to a movie, thinking they were going to see one we approved of. However, they came home talking of another one - one we had NOT approved. I looked it up online and was appalled at the story line. The movie was JUNO and I was saddened by watching the trailer and reading about it, especially the 29 or so positively glowing reviews. Thankfully, most of the girls did not like the movie. And yes, it was PG-13, too! Hey, I have been known to turn down a G rated movie they wanted to see!!
Posted by: sheshe | January 8, 2008 04:39 PM
I totally agree Lisa. A few years ago my husband and I tightened the reigns on our movie watching too. We had held by the no rated R, but watched some PG13 that we would not let our kids watch. Then the Lord impressed upon us that if it is not OK for them, why was it OK for us? If sin is sin, and we should not let the kids partake, why then should we? Ouch, but it has been good. Our kids see there is no compromise on this. What is good for one is good for all.
Posted by: Jill | January 8, 2008 05:15 PM
We had several neighbors come over for a new years celebration in our home. I wrote about it HERE.
Just before they came, my husband noticed the box to a computer game that we let our 2 older teen boys buy was sitting out. I said, "Honey, I would be embarrassed for people to see that in our home." My husband was as convicted as I was and he said, "Yes, and if we are too embarrassed to have it out when we have company, we should have never allowed the boys to buy it in the first place."
We took it back. Our oldest asked us why we let him buy it in the first place if we now decided that it was not a good idea. My husband handled the conversation well... and so did our son. It became another opportunity to humble ourselves before the Lord and even ask our son to forgive our lack of discernment.
On that note, another book I HIGHLY recommend is Challies book on discernment. It is a must-have.
Posted by: Lisa Nunley | January 8, 2008 07:16 PM
I love that story! What a great illustration to make an impact for our kids!
The men in our church are going through Respectable Sins and I am going to be reading it soon. Don't you love the wonderful help from Jerry Bridges?
Posted by: Kim | January 9, 2008 03:11 PM